Yeah whatever. This is tough advice. Sometimes it seems as though the only way to take it is personally. Here's the thing: it's never personal. It's never about you. How could it be? That critic doesn't truly know you, understand you, or hear the voices in your head. All they know is themselves. So you just carry on doing your work, the best way you know how, producing the best you can. Is there really any other choice?
I love the lottery, because it's easy. Not certain, but easy. If you win, you've hit the lottery, literally. Most of us are searching for a path to success that is both easy and certain. Most paths are neither.
When you are truly living on the edge, maybe going into space, or traipsing to the North Pole, there's no room at all for error. It's a luxury you can't afford. Make a mistake and you die. For the rest of us, though, it's not quite as serious. Being wrong won't kill us, it's just something we'd prefer to avoid. We have the privilege of being wrong. You won't advance your cause or discover new truths if you're obsessed with being right all the time. And the only way not to be right all the time (and to compound your advantage and accomplish even more than you already have set out to) is to be as open to being wrong as often as you can afford to be.
...if you stopped actively messing up your own work.
You are a talented, powerful, and resilient creature. I mean look at how far you have come, and how much you manage to do despite the lack of time, constant self doubt, ridicule and needless criticism you aim at yourself.
When I was a kid my dream was to be Head of the British Library. Lofty ambition I know! I had this dream of being in charge of something that was truly worth sharing, where people could come and read things that they did not have to own. I now realise that a librarian is so much more than a cataloguer of books. A librarian is a data hound, a guide, a sherpa, a sheepdog, and a teacher. The librarian is the interface between reams of data and the highly motivated user. Somehow that's exactly what we have ended up doing at Indiefield.
The original library was all about educating the working man who would work all day and become a more civilised member of society by reading at night. Things like Netflix are an even better library, with a librarian who knows almost every single film, and also knows what you've seen and what you're likely to want to see. It connects viewers with films. The way Indiefield connects clients with respondents.
We need librarians more than ever to figure out creative ways to find and use data. The modern library is so much more than just a warehouse of data and the modern librarian is a producer, concierge, connector, teacher, and fixer because with literally every book now available on a Kindle (cheap, not worth warehousing) the scarce resource is knowledge and insight, not access to data. The librarian is the gateway to the information economy and for the right librarian, this is the chance of a lifetime.
Many years ago Arthur C. Clarke said "Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic." And wow isn't that true? If you time travelled back to the 1600s with an iPhone or a Tesla you would probably be worshipped (or burnt at the stake, who knows?). And the magic continues today with biotech, quantum mechanics, and of course AI. There's so much magic around us that we've probably started taking it for granted.
It's easy:
Obviously your company is the best. You work there, you helped build it, everything it does makes sense to you, you have been involved from the start. So that means your company doesn't do anything wrong, and it always does the best it can do under the given circumstances. Everyone should use you! But the problem with truly believing that you are the best is that it leaves very little room to innovate and change. After all, the only reason to ever change is to be the best but you are already there so...
Being humble is the best response to a fast-changing and competitive marketplace. The humble company understands that it needs to re-earn attention, re-earn loyalty and reconnect with its clients as if every day is the very first day.
Has anyone ever looked you in the eye and said "I expected more from you"? Or asked why you are not making a difference? Or demanded that you set aside your fear and try anyway. Or accused you of holding back? If they have it's because they are showing you love and kindness and want the best for you.
People use personal trainers because the trainer pushes you to make more of an effort - you'll do more push ups or another lap if someone is shouting at you. So we hire a trainer or a coach or a whatever it is that we are into in order to make us do more and whip us into shape. Effort is transitory and hard to measure and even harder to do on a regular basis so it requires oversight. But ultimately, if we only grow on demand are we selling ourselves short? Can the student ever really become the master if the master is there simply to keep us motivated? Are you really helpless without someone telling you what to do?